Men who marry by fronting their money get played all the time because they attract materialists, not loyalists, counseling psychologist Benjamin Zulu says.
According to him, when men have no money, their options for a partner are very narrow.
“Only an honest person could accept them, a person who wasn’t after money but sincere love. A person like you,” he adds.
Zulu acknowledged that wives usually help their men acquire money, but in return, the men cheat on them.
“Their taste now involves fame and competition with other people. They now want the hottest person on the screens. Or the trending sensation on social media. As for you, you’re attractive in your own way, but you’re not into showboating and hype,” Benjamin Zulu explains.
Growing distant
The situation becomes worse as the wealthy man becomes distant from his wife emotionally and even physically.
“The distance can be physical by staying out till late nearly every day. It can also be going far away in the name of a job while closing you off from accessing their residency there.
“…it can be emotional and informational shut down where they close up and put secrecy around their gadgets,” Benjamin Zulu says.
At the height of this situation is the rise of extramarital affairs and the birth of children out of wedlock.
Unfaithful Partners
Benjamin Zulu asserts, however, that this kind of relationship/marriage is never long-lasting. This is because the rich man flaunts his money in order to get the women.
“These kinds of lovers are not out for faithful marriages. They want a lifestyle and they will do anything to get more money. So even if they marry, the new partner will change their loyalty to get more money any time another opportunity comes around,” he adds.
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Eventually, the rich man gets played by all the women he dates yet he cannot go back to his wife whom he despises for lacking money or the energy to chase it.
Men, don’t marry an uneducated woman, Benjamin Zulu
Benjamin Zulu stated that this is the same case for men who marry uneducated women just because they are in love with them.
“You may think you will educate her because you’ve fallen in love, but you’re risking your life. A woman who has a dream will not marry or even date before she has put a solid foundation for financial self-redemption,” Benjamin Zulu explained.
To avoid such situations, Benjamin Zulu advises men to marry like-minded women in terms of their finances, education, and even family goals.
