Ah, Valentine’s Day—the annual showdown of love where some people go all out with heart-shaped everything, while others roll their eyes and keep it moving.
If you’re Gen Z, you already know the drill. Love in this generation isn’t just about chocolates and teddy bears; it’s about authenticity, vibes, and—let’s be real—meme-worthy moments.
We’ve seen Gen Z shake up everything from social justice movements to work culture (hello, quiet quitting!), and dating is no exception.
The ‘Maandamano movement’ recently proved just how much this generation influences each other’s expectations.
So when February 14th rolls around, it’s not just about roses and dinner dates; it’s about redefining what love actually means.
For some, love is a cozy night in, ordering takeout, and binging Love Is Blind with a partner.
For others, it’s a full-blown “soft life” moment—a surprise trip to Zanzibar, a candlelit dinner on a yacht, or a bouquet of money instead of roses (because priorities!).
But here’s the million-dollar question: Do all these gestures hold the same weight? And what about those still navigating love, trying to figure out what it even means?
Not everyone experiences love the same way, and science supports this. According to Dr. Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages, people give and receive love through different expressions.
Some thrive on words of affirmation, finding meaning in deep conversations or simple “I appreciate you” moments.
Others value gift-giving, where a thoughtful present, like a PlayStation 5, speaks volumes. For some, quality time is key, where putting away the phone and sharing undivided attention means the most.
Acts of service—like helping with tasks or making a favourite meal—are also powerful expressions of love.
Lastly, for those who value physical touch, hugs, hand-holding, and forehead kisses create a deep connection.
Understanding these love languages reminds us that love isn’t just about grand gestures, but the small actions that make us feel seen, valued, and loved.
Your love language shapes how you feel appreciated, so while one person might be all about fancy gifts, another might just want someone who listens and genuinely gets them.
The trick? Understanding what makes you (and your partner) feel loved without comparing your relationship to what’s trending on TikTok.
So, What Really Matters?
At the end of the day, love isn’t about the size of the gesture—it’s about the thought behind it.
Whether you’re planning an extravagant surprise or just sending a heartfelt message, what counts is the connection.
Valentine’s Day shouldn’t feel like a competition; it should be a reminder to reflect on what love really means to you.
So whether you’re going big, keeping it simple, or just vibing solo, embrace love in all its forms.
And if all else fails, at least there’s discounted chocolate on February 15th
Written by Stephanie Mukandairo
