Four Things You Should Do After a Breakup

Breakups are difficult and often bewildering, and if you’ve experienced one (or several), you’ve probably received a lot of advice. Much of it may not have been very helpful, but some of it flopped. So according to Dr. Gary Brown, these are the four things you need to do after a breakup.

According to leading therapists, you should block your ex after a breakup for a minimum of 90 days and avoid any form of digital contact. Photo: Pexel; Josh Hild.

1 Block Them on Social Media

The first step, according to relationship therapist Dr. Gary Brown, is to block or mute your ex on social media.

Dr Brown advises that you not see, talk to, or communicate at all with your Ex including through any social media for a minimum of 90 days after the breakup.

The good doctor goes on to share that, this digital break allows you to grieve the loss of your relationship without clinging to false hope that it might work out.

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2 Trust Your Decision to breakup and Do Not Look Back

After a breakup, it’s common to question if ending the relationship was the right choice. Relationship therapists advise that one should actively fight and resist that urge.

You are going to second-guess your choice. Your brain is hardwired to seek pleasure, and when you do something big and hard, even if it is the right thing to do, your brain is going to fight you on it.

Relationship coaches suggest keeping a list of reasons for the breakup and reminding yourself of them when you start reminiscing about the good times.

It is important to remember why you broke up and while it may feel impossible in the moment, pushing through this will help you reach a place where you can heal. This leads us to our next point.

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3 Be Honest About the breakup and why the Relationship Ended

During a breakup, it’s easy to idealize the relationship and forget the reasons it didn’t work out leading to the breakup.

At this stage, it is important to make sure you do not lose sight of what is ahead and what you need to achieve to heal from the breakup.

When people break up, they often say ‘I have no idea what happened! Everything was perfect!’ This is because they are panicking about the end of the relationship.

Relationship coaches advise that If you don’t accept that the breakup is a reality, you are staying in a state of denial, which prolongs your healing.

Acceptance is the first step in moving on, and while healing still takes time, acknowledging the reality of the breakup is crucial.

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