Pastor K.N. Jacob has emphasized the importance of involving wives in decisions, particularly when it comes to helping others.
He shared a scenario where a married man landed in hot soup after his wife got wind of what he was doing.
Further, he faced silent treatment from his wife for assisting a single lady in their neighbourhood who was relocating.
READ ALSO: Elizabeth Mokoro: Wives shouldn’t question husbands when they arrive home late
Especially before making decisions that involve helping others, especially single women.
He highlighted a case where the husband’s act of kindness toward the single lady led to tension in their relationship.
Addressing the situation, Pastor Jacob questioned the man’s motives and emphasized the need to involve the wife in such matters.
He asked, “Who is this single lady to you? Are you her dad, brother, or husband?”
He pointed out that the wife’s reaction was not a result of the husband’s kindness but rather because he didn’t involve her in the decision.
Moreover, he added that if the husband genuinely wanted to help without any hidden agenda, he should have consulted his wife before extending assistance to the single lady.
READ ALSO: Oprah Winfrey admits she’s never been to therapy
Pastor Jacob highlighted the importance of considering how one would feel if the roles were reversed, and the wife was helping a single man without involving her husband.
Happy wife, happy life
Moreover, Pastor Jacob suggested that the single lady should have approached the man’s wife instead of directly seeking help from the husband.
The man defended his actions, claiming innocence and asserting that he had no hidden motives for helping the single woman.
In conclusion, Pastor Jacob emphasized that regardless of personal opinions or external perspectives.
If the wife is uncomfortable with a particular action, it is crucial to respect her feelings and stop the activity causing distress in the relationship.
