Kenya’s renowned actor, filmmaker and director, Phil Karanja popularly known as Phil Director has opened up about his divorce from Kate Actress, offering candid reflections during a recent appearance on the CTA, Cleaning the Airwaves Podcast.

The renowned filmmaker shared that the experience of parting ways with the celebrated actress, Kate The Actress served as a turning point in his personal journey, prompting deep introspection and self-awareness.

In the podcast, Phil Karanja urged individuals navigating the end of relationships to resist the urge to blame their partners entirely.

Instead, he encouraged focusing inward, examining personal flaws, and understanding one’s role in the breakdown of the union.

”Divorce has also taken me to that point of looking inwardly like what did I do wrong , where did I fall short, why did I miss this and this, what should I have worked on myself, what should I have improved, never ever gone on a blame game,” he said.

The filmmaker also added by saying he doesn’t want to be bitter and angry with the ex wife and he can’t channel his anger and blame to her.

“In that period I talked to men and women who had gone through this, manze unaongea na mtu they have been divorced for like 5 years but the guy is still so bitter and angry, and I remember telling myself, No 5 years from now I don’t want to be this bitter and angry at my ex wife, So I am not going to channel my anger and blame to her , I am going to look at myself , what did I do wrong? I’ll never focus on her”, he added.

Phil Karanja added that taking responsibility for one’s shortcomings is essential to ensure healthier relationships in the future.

“Ukijiita by the way you’ll realize you messed up here and here and here, Yes You are to blame for this and so ukijiita mkutano unajiambia now start again , start rebuilding yourself again.”

Karanja’s remarks have resonated with fans, sparking widespread discussions online about accountability in relationships.

Many praised his maturity and willingness to share insights from such a vulnerable chapter in his life.

In an era where separations are often mired in accusations and public spats, his approach highlights the importance of owning one’s role in conflicts while learning from them.

Phil and Kate, two of Kenya’s most prominent entertainment personalities, tied the knot in 2017, and their marriage was admired by many for its apparent stability. Their eventual split in 2024 came as a surprise to fans.

However, both have chosen to focus on positive growth, setting an example for others facing similar challenges.